3 edits | I failed :( Some of you know my sister was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer a while ago. I really wanted to take her and my nephew to disneyland so they could have some final good memories together, but I was short on funds my sister was short on funds because of medical expenses and I really wanted to do it on my own like a gift from me to her and my nephew. So I created a thread in the for sale forum and put up pretty much everything I had for sale and made enough to pay for tickets hotel and even a car rental.
The trip is scheduled for Saturday until the 14th. However this morning at 4 am my sister began to have complications and she was rushed to the Hospital and my other sister met her there. At 8am we were told she was fine and would probably come home. In fact when we spoke to my sister we could hear my other sister the one with cancer laughing in the background. So we decided not to go to the hospital. However at 10:15 am my sister calls me saying that we need to get to the Hospital ASAP, 5 minutes later a second call to let us know she passed away. Now I feel like I failed in making the trip happen. I am 2 days too late if only I could of done it last week or the week before.
But i guess there are reasons for everything and I just wanted to thank everyone who bought something and wished us luck.
The trip itself is still on as my sister who was with her at the hospital, said she wanted my nephew to take the trip and go and have fun she said it was one of her final words that we must go.
I wanted to cancel but after speaking with my other sisters and after seeing that the funeral won't be until Wednesday I decided to still do the trip at least with my nephew and my mom. But who knows that may change between now and the 11th.
Thankfully if we do decide to cancel it or move it to a later date Delta told me in writing that they would waive any fee's for my tickets if i had to cancel/reschedule because of my sisters illness.
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 RazgrizPandora rocksPremium
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1 edit | that's so sad  , my condolences. |
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Really, you didn't fail. Your sister knows that. It's you who is punishing yourself. Don't. Go with the nephew and whoever else and have some fun. Life IS too short to not have fun and to laugh as much as you can.
You have my sympathy.
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I am so sorry for your loss and understand the feeling completely having planned a similar trip for my Mom that never could be completed. Yet, just the thought that you were planning this.. thinking of her I think would have been enough, it will also help your other sister to continue. |
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 drslashGoya AsmaPremium
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You didn't fail. You sister's illness was not trying to make you fail. You sister's illness did not win or lose. The illness happened and did not have a mind of it's own. You have the compassion to do right by your sister and your nephew. Take the trip and cherish the memories of your sister. You have my condolences. |
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My condolences to you and your family.
You did not fail your sister and I bet she would want your family to still go on about your lives and take that trip even though she will not be with your physically.
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Im very sorry, for your loss. You tried and tried hard. The best you can do is to move on and complete your plan with the trip to honor her. |
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You did not fail. I sympathize with your family. If you are able, I would honor your sister's wishes and try to make the most of the trip. It may be worthwhile to put it off for just a few weeks to allow you all to get over the first rush of grief and perhaps to have gotten to a place where you can make the trip more of a tribute to her memory.
Good luck. |
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dont blame yourself... things like this are out of your control. i am deeply sorry for you & your family's loss. |
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said by beck:Really, you didn't fail. Your sister knows that. It's you who is punishing yourself. Don't. Go with the nephew and whoever else and have some fun. Life IS too short to not have fun and to laugh as much as you can. You have my sympathy. well said, nothing more to add. Don't punish yourself. your nephew needs you at 100% now.
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I was unable to make the trip as planned :-( As others have said, you did NOT fail. I changed title to more aptly named to what occurred. My sincerest condolence to you and your family. It's hard losing a loved one when plans are being made beforehand. I wish you peace with and your family.
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Re: I failed :( said by AVD:said by beck:Really, you didn't fail. Your sister knows that. It's you who is punishing yourself. Don't. Go with the nephew and whoever else and have some fun. Life IS too short to not have fun and to laugh as much as you can. You have my sympathy. well said, nothing more to add. Don't punish yourself. your nephew needs you at 100% now. I agree also. It's natural to look at what we did NOT do in a time like this instead of what we DID do. I know nothing anyone says will make you feel better, but what you can do now is be there for your nephew and be a source of strength for him.
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kudos:3 | said by ptrowski:I agree also. It's natural to look at what we did NOT do in a time like this instead of what we DID do. I know nothing anyone says will make you feel better, but what you can do now is be there for your nephew and be a source of strength for him. ^ This. My father passed away from a terminal cancer when I was 10, and I still fight myself for guilt trips on what I coulda/woulda done with my time with him. However, I know the truth of the matter - I was a 10-year-old...acting like a kid is par for the course at that age. Even though family/friends/others/I tell myself that, I still maintain some niggling little doubt in my head.
There are some things you don't have any control over, and cancer & biologies are exactly that. You were already busting your ass to make this trip happen for your nephew, and it was just simply her time to go. Take care of the living (yourself included) and I'm sure that would be the greatest comfort your sister could have ever asked for. |
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 The PigI know you want to be mePremium
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This is not your fault!
Go on the trip your sister will like that! |
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My condolences.
Your goal was to give your sister good memories, how did you fail? Even just trying to get her to Disneyland is awesome.
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thanks everyone just sucks yesterday on the phone she sounded excited even more so than my nephew to be going.
My sister told me that she kept telling the doctors this morning they had to make her better because she was headed to Cali.
Just sucks i mean we all knew she would be leaving us but we didn't expect so soon.
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I'm sorry to hear of your loss and will echo the sentiments that have been expressed here. I saw your thread in the for sale forum and thought that it was a great thing that you were doing. You definitely didn't fail. It is better to get the little ones' minds off this sad event by making the trip. |
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| said by Cheddah:I'm sorry to hear of your loss and will echo the sentiments that have been expressed here. I saw your thread in the for sale forum and thought that it was a great thing that you were doing. You definitely didn't fail. It is better to get the little ones' minds off this sad event by making the trip. 100% agree. Your nephew is going to need you now more than ever. Take the trip in honor of your sister. My heart felt condolences to all of your family. You'll be held up in prayer.
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Very sorry to hear this. Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. |
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Sorry for your loss but you didn't fail. You succeeded in being a great, caring and loving brother to your sister. Go on the trip as planned as it would be good for all.
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