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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 25 Aug 2008 07:37:14 EDT

onebadmofo : Hey Kasp, You're taking all the steps in the right direction. Donating some toys away that were his to other kids who need them, helping other parents who have kids that have cancer.

I'm not sure if anyone has asked this but, have you thought of having any other kids? And not to mean that as a "replacement" for your son. Cause that's impossible. But as a start on a new path in life, so-to-speak.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 24 Aug 2008 18:20:17 EDT

pasarela : My Father had cancer, he had surgery, maybe another type of cancer, he is OK now.

I am so sorry, My prayers go to your son, He is proud of what you & all your family did for him.

God Bless him!

JC.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 24 Aug 2008 00:15:36 EDT

kramcool : I think this should be a sticky!
Since your first post about Micheal we have all hoped,prayed and sadly cried with you and your family.We will always be interested in the living legacy that Michale has left us!!
Wow it has been over 6 months already.
It is because of Micheal that we(a group of cyber-strangers)became closer.......became involved!

»www.youtube.com/watch?v=dHm1el3Sze8

I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don’t let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories

Remember the good times that we had?
I let them slip away from us when things got bad
How clearly I first saw you smilin’ in the sun
Wanna feel your warmth upon me, I wanna be the one

I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don’t let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories

I’m so tired but I can’t sleep
Standin’ on the edge of something much too deep
It’s funny how we feel so much but we cannot say a word
We are screaming inside, but we can’t be heard

But I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don’t let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories

I’m so afraid to love you, but more afraid to loose
Clinging to a past that doesn’t let me choose
Once there was a darkness, deep and endless night
You gave me everything you had, oh you gave me light

And I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don’t let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories

And I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don’t let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
Weep not for the memories

God Bless and keep on keeping on!!
-Kram(Mark)
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 23 Aug 2008 18:09:45 EDT

Warzau : Im glad you are coping with this and in turn helping others who are now going through the same. Good luck and we wait for you finds :)

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 23 Aug 2008 17:05:08 EDT

kasparov33 : just wanted to stop in and say hello to all. the last few months have been very difficult but myself and my wife and daughter are doing ok. reading back over a lot of the posts you folks posted meant a lot to me. again thank you all for taking the time to help out someone you dont even know. here in the next few days i am going to go through my sons closet and find some of his old toys that are still good and give them to some other children so that they may have fun with them. i know that my son would want me to do that instead of just letting them set there. i think about him every day and try to lead my life in a way that would make him proud. i have found a forum for parents with children that have his type of cancer and some of the parents just recently found out that their child has the cancer. hopefully i can answer some of their questions and help them with questions that they may have and help to make their journey a little easier if i can. well i hope you all have a great day but i am packing my metal detector and going hunting for coins for a few hours. i have found some nice finds in recent months and will post some pics hopefully soon. later all

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 08 Jun 2008 20:29:58 EDT

Kardinal :

said by kasparov33 :

i can only dream of having his courage and stamina.

I reckon you already do.

You've posted quite a bit of the past few months of your life in this thread and that itself takes quite a bit of courage and strength to do. You've shared your hardship with us and I, for one, can see the strength within you that it has taken to do this and to speak of the pain and sorrow you have been through. I hope that the words of the posters here have been a help to you as you have been an inspiration and example of strength to us.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 08 Jun 2008 19:21:36 EDT

Bada Bing : Bless you and your family. You are stronger than I could ever be. I can not imagine the pain you went though. Such an innocent life taken away. Take care.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 08 Jun 2008 17:05:05 EDT

kasparov33 : here is a pic of my son. this was taken around october of 2007. the blue on his skin is where the doctors marked him for the radiation. he was one hell of a fighter and never really complained about much at all. i can only dream of having his courage and stamina. later all

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 07 Jun 2008 19:58:19 EDT

AtlGuy : Hi kasparov33, I just read this thread and wanted to send my sincere sympathies regarding your son. How very sad to read.

As far as uploading pics, when you type a message click the Preview/Attach button, then you you should see a +upload attachments button under your screen name. From there, browse to where the pictures are saved on your computer. I hope that helps.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 07 Jun 2008 09:32:17 EDT

kasparov33 : found some pennies from 1911. 1916 and also 1919. havent had a lot of time to go but there are some very old homes around here that i am going to go to when the weather permits and hopefully i will find some silver coins. a nice diamond ring withy a few carats wouldnt be bad either. i took some pics of me and my detecting machines and also have some pics of my son. if someone would message me and tell me how to post them that would be great and i will have them posted by tonight. later all and stay out of the heat. its going to be 99 here today and tomorrow.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 07 Jun 2008 05:54:07 EDT

hellrazzer23 : In Southern Cal, its starting to get pretty hot. Not 98, but its in the 70s daily and creeping towards the 80s. Its usually 80s around this time of year, so the 70ish temp is pretty nice.

You mentioned metal detecting. What would you say is the coolest/best/most valuable thing you found so far with the metal detecting?

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Thu, 05 Jun 2008 16:51:07 EDT

kasparov33 : was going to go metal detecting this afternoon folks but it was 98 on the front porch this afternoon so i said no go. the summer seems to get here earlier each year and my poor grass is starting to resemble sagebrush. i hit what i think is a dime in my back yard the other day and when i tried to dig it was like trying to get through concrete so i said i will get it later. sure wish we could get about 2 days worth of good soaking rain cause if not its going to get very bad again here this summer. the small garden i planted can be watered with the well we have so thats good. is it hot yet where all of you live? chime in and let us know what the temps are at your ranch. later all

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 24 May 2008 00:35:55 EDT

jimmay76 : Hey K33

I thought i had such a tough night with the kids

Now i'm bawling my eyes out, again, for your loss, because why are we stressing about such bs

Thanks for keeping us posted

pm anytime im on everyday

jim

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Thu, 22 May 2008 23:55:11 EDT

Reign : I lost a brother to cancer... I was at the point of no return after it happend... some how I managed to regroup myself and continue to live life..

Just remember to think positive.

Edit: Just saw your post... Im very sorry to hear the bad news.. I was expecting a full recovery...

There is alot more I can say..

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Thu, 22 May 2008 10:59:16 EDT

jwersan :

said by kasparov33 :

i can honestly say that my life has been forever changed and anyone that i can help in my life to feel better or whatever i can do at that time to help i will never pass the chance up. have a good one all.

I'm glad to see you and your wife are moving forward after this tragic point in your life.
I wish I could say the same for my sister, she lost her oldest son to Leukemia several years ago, he was in his early 20's and had been through two rounds of chemo and a bone marrow transplant.
She was on medication shortly after his death to help her cope, but her Dr still has her on medication and sees no issue continuing them going forward. My sister goes to work several days a week, comes home and sleeps, that is her entire routine. Occasionally she will pop some meds and drag herself to a family gathering or go to Atlantic city to escape his birthday or the date he passed.

To me she is clinically depressed, but this seems to escape her Dr.

I am glad to see you are not using drugs as a crutch, and are moving forward, trust me on this, your son would be proud of you for the way you are handling this.

Good luck!
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Thu, 22 May 2008 10:31:59 EDT

Edge1 :

said by Warzau :

That actually brought a tear to my eye. It is the same night time routine, I have with my girls. I would say go ahead and try anything that will help with the pain. In the same respect don't abuse yourself or beat yourself up. You know what I'm sure your son would say how proud he is of you right now.

Stay strong.

I have the same routine with my girls. Brought a tear to my eye too. Hang tough.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Wed, 21 May 2008 23:31:28 EDT

kasparov33 : thank you so much. i dont beat myself up because that will only make things worse. at first there were all the usual questions like what if we did something different or had did this or that but everytime my wifre or i did that i could hear my son say mom and dad you did a great job and i had all that i needed. my wife and i are going to the childrens hospital in charlotte sometime in the next 2 months on a friday to help out in the oncology wing and maybe we can make some child that has cancer feel better even if only for a day and talk to the parents and hopefully help them to feel better too. i can honestly say that my life has been forever changed and anyone that i can help in my life to feel better or whatever i can do at that time to help i will never pass the chance up. have a good one all.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Wed, 21 May 2008 22:58:28 EDT

kramcool : My friend,don't worry,if a little weed every now and then makes you feel better.
It probably just makes the memories a little better,when they come flooding in.
I am sure that the memories you have of Micheal are pleasant,but i bet they still hurt some times?

Remember what Bob said......
(I love the pics and in this video)Sit back relax and smile!

»www.youtube.com/watch?v=KAJbFrKC91I
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Wed, 21 May 2008 15:04:17 EDT

Warzau : That actually brought a tear to my eye. It is the same night time routine, I have with my girls. I would say go ahead and try anything that will help with the pain. In the same respect don't abuse yourself or beat yourself up. You know what I'm sure your son would say how proud he is of you right now.

Stay strong.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Tue, 20 May 2008 22:59:32 EDT

kasparov33 : i dont have the stuff in my car nor do i even have to leave my home to get a doob or 2. i dont even have enough to really put in a thimble so im not going away. im 38 years old and do think before i act so dont worry mofo im keeping everything in check bro but i really do thank you for being kind enough to care. most folks would probably say nothing. anywho when i get the chance i will also post some pics of my metal detecting finds. i havent found any silver coins yet but have found quite a bit of change here and there. bought my self a minelab explorer2 metal detector. me and my brother in law go out about 4 times a week after work and on the weekends. i have located a house built in 1900 that the owner said we could hunt so maybe we will find some good stuff. will let you know when i get my first silver. thanks and have a good one.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Tue, 20 May 2008 15:58:16 EDT

onebadmofo : Sorry to hear you're taking hard yet. I can't imagine how hard it can be. But take this from someone who has his head clear...drop the weed man. If you get caught with that shit it's not gonna matter WHY you have it or do it..you'll be going away. And what could be a seatbelt infraction one minute, could end up being prison time the next. And the last thing your wife needs is, to lose her husband to incarceration due to possession of an illegal substance.

Also, take down all but maybe 2 or 3 of the pics you have of your boy and place them in a nice album in honor of him. I know it would be hard as HELL to do (and if you can't do it, PAY someone to do it). But in order to even try to clear your head, you need to try to move forward. And with those pics hanging up on the walls and sitting on table tops, it's going to be SO much harder to do.

I hope you can make some positive progress, man. Good luck.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Tue, 20 May 2008 15:46:32 EDT

kasparov33 : we have been doing fair i guess. april 25th would have been my sons 13th birthday. the days come and go but things are just not the same. we talk to a lot of friends and family often and that helps to get things off our chests so to speak. i work out in my garage a lot at night so that my wife doesnt see my crying because i dont want her to worry about me. my son is still all around us in photos and other things. the other night my wife found a mothers day card my son made for her 2 years ago and that brought her to tears. the doctor tried to put me on xanax but they made me feel like crap so i use a little ganja every once and a while late at night. i kniow a lot of people say thats not the way to go but it works for me. i have never been in trouble and have had only 1 ticket in my life for a seat belt infraction so those of you who may say that im bad for doing that please just try to understand and dont have a rush to judgement. the only thing i can do is to be there for my family and make sure that they are kept safe and tell them i love them everday. every night before my son went to sleep i would tell him that i loved him and he would say dad do you know how much i love you and i would say how much, and he would say i love you to much. that was his way of saying he loved me more and that has been what has helped me along. i miss my little buddy and wish i could have him back for just 1 minute to tell him how proud of him i am but i know that he knew that anyway. i will have some pics when i can find them to show. hope all of you have a great day.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Tue, 20 May 2008 14:02:33 EDT

Edge1 : Just wondering how you are doing kasparov. Stay strong, be good to yourself.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Wed, 16 Apr 2008 07:40:24 EDT

onebadmofo :

said by kasparov33 :

that sounds great. i did find a 1919 and a 1941 penny in about an hour saturday. when i find some silver and get a chance i will post a few pics. thanks all and have a great day.

If you do post your findings, and you make a separate thread about it, post the link to the thread in here. That way those who may not frequent the "56k look out" forum, will be able find it here and they won't miss out.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Tue, 15 Apr 2008 19:57:22 EDT

kasparov33 : that sounds great. i did find a 1919 and a 1941 penny in about an hour saturday. when i find some silver and get a chance i will post a few pics. thanks all and have a great day.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Tue, 15 Apr 2008 08:34:59 EDT

onebadmofo :

said by kasparov33 :

just stopped back in to say hello to all the good people that have been so helpful in the last few months. the last while has been very difficult. dont sleep to well because im having dreams of being in the hospital that my son was in and there are many children there that are asking for me to help them. its really bad sometimes and my wife said that maybe i should go there once or twice a month and volunteer in the childrens cancer wing. im thinking that may be a good idea to do that and get rid of these things i dream about. i still have a lot of people that ask me how my son is when they see me and i know that they may not know what happened but man that takes a good day and turns it upside down in a hurry. recently i bought 2 metal detectors and go with my brother in law metal detecting. he has done it for 30 years and i love it a lot. i used to do it before i got married but had to quit because my family came first. havent found any big treasure yet but trying to find some old silver coins and make my wife a necklace with it. well thats enough jabber for now and hope you all have a great day and a better one tomorrow. cya

Hey man it's good to hear you're trying to get things back on a normal track (as normal as it can be, anyway). It's also good to hear you found a hobby with metal detecting. It'll give your mind something to do other than think of the negativity.

Why don't you post you findings on here, I'm sure everyone would love to see what you dig up.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 14 Apr 2008 15:47:54 EDT

kasparov33 : just stopped back in to say hello to all the good people that have been so helpful in the last few months. the last while has been very difficult. dont sleep to well because im having dreams of being in the hospital that my son was in and there are many children there that are asking for me to help them. its really bad sometimes and my wife said that maybe i should go there once or twice a month and volunteer in the childrens cancer wing. im thinking that may be a good idea to do that and get rid of these things i dream about. i still have a lot of people that ask me how my son is when they see me and i know that they may not know what happened but man that takes a good day and turns it upside down in a hurry. recently i bought 2 metal detectors and go with my brother in law metal detecting. he has done it for 30 years and i love it a lot. i used to do it before i got married but had to quit because my family came first. havent found any big treasure yet but trying to find some old silver coins and make my wife a necklace with it. well thats enough jabber for now and hope you all have a great day and a better one tomorrow. cya

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Wed, 19 Mar 2008 15:05:46 EDT

onebadmofo : Damn man, that sucks. He was so young too. 12 years old. Sorry to hear about your loss man. I've lost grandparents to cancer and a best friend of mine in the 80's to cancer. It sucks because you know you are completely powerless to do anything to rid them of the thing that's killing them.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Tue, 18 Mar 2008 20:28:48 EDT

weeksben1 : My deepest sympathies to you and your family.
I believe it was the late Jim Valvano who said:

"Cancer can take away all my physical abilities, but it cannot touch my mind, it cannot touch my heart, and it cannot touch my soul. And those three things will carry on forever. Don't give up, don't ever give up"

I'm thinking of you and your family.

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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Tue, 18 Mar 2008 00:00:47 EDT

kasparov33 : there are a lot of nice folks out there and ive found a lot of them here. hope all of you are doing great and ready for spring and summer. bar-bq and fresh cut grass. lawn grass that is. going to buy a new riding mower within 2 weeks. hope to get a toro or wheel horse. tired of blowing leaves so gonna get one that has mulcher and vac system. make it easier on me for sure. hopefully by summer gas will have dropped in price. gotta run so thanks for everyones support and thoughts.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 16 Mar 2008 22:28:12 EDT

usa2k :

So sad to lose anyone, especially child who parents out-live them :(
My sincerest condolences.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Wed, 05 Mar 2008 03:38:59 EDT

hellrazzer23 :

said by kasparov33 :

hello all. i have playing chess again to help my mind stay straight. it has helped a lot. quit playing when i got married as it took a back set to family. if any of you out there play let me know and maybe we can get together somewhere on the internet to play.

I used to play chess in my younger years. I was actually in a chess club where the guy thought I could play in some youth tournaments. I'm probably not any good now, but if you need someone to play with, I'm game.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Tue, 04 Mar 2008 21:29:09 EDT

Warzau : Here is some nfo re Premium status.

»/join/new

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Tue, 04 Mar 2008 19:39:43 EDT

kasparov33 : hello all. i have playing chess again to help my mind stay straight. it has helped a lot. quit playing when i got married as it took a back set to family. if any of you out there play let me know and maybe we can get together somewhere on the internet to play. told my wife she and my daughter can go with me when i go to some tournaments in the mountains and then they can go shopping. hope all of you folks are doing ok. you really are a wonderful bunch of people. 1 more question what can i do with a premium membership? sorry if i sound like a noob but just wanting to use it since i have it. hope everybody has a great day and a better one tomorrow. thanks

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Wed, 27 Feb 2008 13:58:11 EDT

Warzau :

said by jwersan :

just be aware that not all of them can help you, find the right one.

Correct IIRC my Mother sought help from a couple before settling on one.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Wed, 27 Feb 2008 12:36:07 EDT

jwersan : The 28th of February is my nephew Brian's birthday. He would have been 28.. :(
Not a day goes by that I don't think about him in some way.
I thought his death only affected me in small ways until my wife mentioned a few things that he & I used to do together that I NEVER do anymore. Subconsciously I had been affected a lot more than I thought.

His parents have dealt with it in their own ways, some good, some bad. My sister is the worst for it though, and IMHO her therapist is not helping her move forward, and is hindering her. In fact I would classify her as clinically depressed, but that is just my layman's take on depression.
Brian was her first born, and Jason, her only other child was smothered by her at first.

He has been gone almost six years now.

I agree that you and your family would benefit from therapy, just be aware that not all of them can help you, find the right one.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Wed, 27 Feb 2008 11:56:32 EDT

Warzau : I thought I would chime in again. Have you and your wife sought counseling? I hope you do, I know you have this thread as a source to vent. But sometimes it's best to talk to a professional. When my Mom and Dad lost their first son, they never sought helped, then again this was nearly 40 years ago. My mother always blamed herself and my father never speaks about it. My mother eventually ( 10 years ) ago sought help because of her deteriorating mental health. She has come to grips that it wasn't her fault and other thing in her life wasn't her fault as well.

She of course never forgets, every year she celebrate his birth and mourns in her way his death. 2 years ago she went back to her country to visit his grave, something she found hard to do. Unfortunately my Dad never sought help and he doesn't speak of it. Sometimes I wonder about him.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 25 Feb 2008 22:42:42 EDT

anon : I have kept up with the post and thought I would say hello again.

I am sad to see that another family "our sons" has joined our club that no parent ever wants to belong to. We have just went through the 5th year anniversary of loosing our son. It is still extremely hard.

We have a friend that lost a son before we lost ours. I talked with her and told her I was sorry for her loss and thought I was being sincere but I did not have a clue how deep the loss and pain was until I went through it. I went back to her and apologized and told her I should have been there for her. I understood that you can't just get over it and go on with your life.

My wife and I have not been nor will ever be the same again. We still ask why it happened and know we will take this pain with us until our time comes to join our son.

You may find that some of your friends become uncomfortable around you because they don't understand why you can't just get over it and you hope they never know the pain and empty hole in your soul that will never be filled.

As I said in my other post, there are so many things I could say about the feelings you will be going through as time passes. Just understand all the feelings and doubts that you have are normal and you are not alone. There are a lot of us that strive to go on with our lives, one day at a time.

Our prayers are with you...

Mike
Tim's Dad

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 25 Feb 2008 11:51:31 EDT

kasparov33 : things are very different. even as adults we still dont know how to understand death. i hope that you to are ok. i am so sorry to hear that you lost your son this year too. i am 37 years old and have seen death in my family before and you know that eventually it will come for you but to have to see one of your children die before you just isnt right. i have asked my self the same question so many times. why did my son have to die when there are so many other vile and terrible people who do a lot of bad and terrible things and they are still walking the earth. but thats a question that will never be answered. it has been 3 weeks and i still sometimes expect my son to get up and play some xbox or watch a movie with me. i wish we could go fishing again. we used to go fishing a lot at a friends house. it is very quiet there and not a lot of boats to come and go. he loved that place very much and we would talk about a lot of things when we were there. i remember the last time we went fishing was on a wednesday before we learned that he had cancer. we only caught 2 small fish. but mike had a wonderful time and he put his feet in the water as we were sitting on the dock and he said he had as much fun doing that and just being there with me as he did catching a big fish. i need to go now because this is very emotional but hope you all have a great day and give your children a hug and kiss for me. thanks.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 25 Feb 2008 11:00:43 EDT

anon : you dont know me but I also lost my son to cancer on Jan 5, 2008 at the age of 14. Like you it is the worst thing I could have imagined. Every day.....the sadness, pain. I wish you well my friend. But we are changed forever.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 24 Feb 2008 21:18:43 EDT

Serbtastic : I just finished reading this and have to admit I'm sitting here all alone in my home office crying like a baby.

I am so sorry for your loss. I keep thinking how I'd feel if I lost my son. He is my light and my life.

God bless you and keep you and your family. Keep your son close in your prayers and your thoughts.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 22 Feb 2008 23:23:49 EDT

Chris 313 :

said by kasparov33 :

thank you all.

I just came across this again and I'm very sorry to hear the news, but am glad to see you and your wife are pushing on. Now the healing can begin and the memories of happy times will adhere to your brain.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Thu, 21 Feb 2008 23:49:06 EDT

stickfigure : kasparov, just came across this, and had both my wife and I in tears. Best wishes to you and your family. Please let us know if there's anything we can do.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Tue, 19 Feb 2008 20:39:49 EDT

Skand : Wow... just wow. Just read this for the first time and it truly brought tears to my eyes.

Kasparov, you will be in my prayers. Stay strong!

I hope that I never have to bury one of my children...

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 18 Feb 2008 23:33:35 EDT

crapmac : Kasparov,

a family loss is difficult, but during tough moments, remember who you have near you for comfort, and then remember your son, and the love you have for him, and hopefully that will help you cope.

All my condolences are sent to you.

I hope you do cope well, and think of happy times you had with your son, and share them with your family.

My upmost sympathy,

Brendan
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 16 Feb 2008 21:37:33 EDT

kingpin317 : Kasparov, I have been out of town and did not check boards, so I am so sorry to be getting to you at this late date, but I wanted you to know that my wife and I are praying for you and your wife, and we are deeply saddened to hear about your son's passing. We have a son, and it broke our hearts to read this. We know that he will always be with you, and one day, you'll see him again. We truly believe in that promise. Take care of each other, and know that you are never alone in your grief.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Thu, 14 Feb 2008 18:22:27 EDT

kasparov33 : thank you all.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Thu, 14 Feb 2008 12:52:57 EDT

NY Tel : *On behalf of the entire DSL Reports community (I have self-appointed ME to say this):

Happy Valentines Day to you and your wife!

*Graphic plagiarized from lilhurricane :)

Happy Valentines Day!

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Thu, 14 Feb 2008 11:03:43 EDT

Santa Fe :

said by kasparov33 :

well today is that special day. i am going to take my wife somewhere tonight and thank her for not giving up on me a long time ago. its nice to think she kept after me. i have been blessed with a good wife a wonderful son and a great daughter. have a happy valentines day all. love em while you can.

Well I hope all the best for you both, and may I say you are a real inspiration to us all! God bless you and yours!
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Thu, 14 Feb 2008 06:39:07 EDT

kasparov33 : well today is that special day. i am going to take my wife somewhere tonight and thank her for not giving up on me a long time ago. its nice to think she kept after me. i have been blessed with a good wife a wonderful son and a great daughter. have a happy valentines day all. love em while you can.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 09 Feb 2008 14:54:05 EDT

jozy123 : Peace to you, Captain Whistlefoot.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 08 Feb 2008 18:09:50 EDT

jwersan :

said by NY Tel :

I am in total agreement but let's not derail the OP's topic....I'm totally cool. :)

I agree, but I want to add this little tidbit, as further proof.

This past Wednesday we had to put our VERY elderly cat to sleep. He was a favorite of everyone in my family, especially my recently departed mother.

When my wife, who was agonising over the decision to call the vet about Ziggy, picked up the phone, her hand slipped and she hit several buttons, when she looked at the display on the phone, my mother's name was on it!
She took that as my mother telling her it was time to let Ziggy go. :(

Your son will "visit" you as often as he can, and you will know it when it happens, for all you know, he was sitting next to you on the couch when you were watching Spongebob!
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Fri, 08 Feb 2008 17:27:57 EDT

NY Tel :

said by Vtblues :

Why worry what others think when they do it so little?

lol - I don't want to preach but I am a firm believer in the IDGARA Society in fact I am the President of the New York Chapter.

Stands for I Don't Give A Rats Ass Society which means I really don't care what others think so I am in total agreement but let's not derail the OP's topic....I'm totally cool. :)

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 08 Feb 2008 16:04:03 EDT

Vtblues : Why worry what others think when they do it so little?

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Fri, 08 Feb 2008 15:51:50 EDT

kasparov33 : thanks for letting me know im not the only one who talks to the departed. its strange but watching spongebob last night was very comforting and probably one of the only times i have laughed since he died. a quick story before i go, several years ago i had taken a shower and decided to be silly to my wife so i took my sons recorder run into our bedroom with only underwear on and pretended i was playing the flute. my son came in right in the middle of this madness and looked straight at me and said "captain whistlefoot". dont know where that came from but from then on i am always known as captain whistlefoot. kids do come up with the silliest things. later all

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Fri, 08 Feb 2008 14:40:36 EDT

Maxo : While on the story of interacting with the departed, I knew someone whose mother always told him that when she passed she was going to come back to keep watch on him. The day after she died a cat came from the woods and stayed with him, ever watchful. Maybe a coincidence, but he felt comfort feeling his mother was with him.

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Fri, 08 Feb 2008 14:12:16 EDT

imtim83 :

said by NY Tel :

said by jwersan :

said by NY Tel :

I also speak to my cats but did not want to appear too much out there in the "fringe" but I am glad there is someone else there who does that.
;)

I talk to all my departed "companions" and family members... :)

True story..
My nephew Brian passed away from Leukemia several years ago.
When he was going through chemo, he was on a lot of prednisone, and would sweat profusely in the warmer weather because of it. His parents did not have any air-conditioning in the house, just the bedrooms, so it was hard for him to be comfortable around his house during the day. I told him that he was welcome to come over to my house and watch TV, raid the frige, whatever. He explained that he was only comfortable with the AC on the lowest setting, 60 degrees, and I told him to set it wherever he wanted it, to make himself comfortable, since we were away most of the day at work. Needless to say we would come home to a VERY COLD house on occasion because he forgot to reset the temperature after he left. :D

For the next few summers, we would find it set to and see the AC change to 60!!!

Every-time we would admonish Brian that he forgot to reset the temperature. Now this only happened during the day when it was VERY hot and only during the week, never on weekends, just like when Brian would visit...

Trust me, your son is with you everyday... :)

Yup - very true.

Ghosts and spirits are very real. I remember my grandpa telling me stories about ghosts of pass family members. There a world that we can't see that is all around us.

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Fri, 08 Feb 2008 14:09:13 EDT

NY Tel :

said by jwersan :

said by NY Tel :

I also speak to my cats but did not want to appear too much out there in the "fringe" but I am glad there is someone else there who does that.
;)

Yup - very true.

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Fri, 08 Feb 2008 13:50:19 EDT

jwersan :

said by NY Tel :

I also speak to my cats but did not want to appear too much out there in the "fringe" but I am glad there is someone else there who does that.
;)

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Fri, 08 Feb 2008 13:15:07 EDT

imtim83 :

said by NY Tel :

I also speak to my cats but did not want to appear too much out there in the "fringe" but I am glad there is someone else there who does that.
;)

Why care what others think of you ? I don't. You should always be yourself no matter what other people may think. I don't think thats crazy or stupid. I accept everyone as who they are. I don't care who they are because I am a very open minded person. I don't judge people at all.

I am one of the most open minded person you will ever meet.

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Fri, 08 Feb 2008 13:10:58 EDT

NY Tel : I also speak to my cats but did not want to appear too much out there in the "fringe" but I am glad there is someone else there who does that.
;)

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Fri, 08 Feb 2008 13:05:15 EDT

imtim83 :

said by NY Tel :

The world is only rotten for those of them who choose to be. You me and everyone else here are the exception. :)
I still talk to my Mother who passed away in 1992. It gives me comfort and I do believe in some way, shape of form - her "being" can hear me.
There will be times when you'll swear Michael is there with you and on some occasions - he will be.
Keep talking to him and pay no mind to what anyone else thinks.
You are a good person and that's all that matters. Period.

Bob

I do the same thing with my dad and my cats.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 08 Feb 2008 12:58:05 EDT

NY Tel : The world is only rotten for those of them who choose to be. You me and everyone else here are the exception. :)
I still talk to my Mother who passed away in 1992. It gives me comfort and I do believe in some way, shape of form - her "being" can hear me.
There will be times when you'll swear Michael is there with you and on some occasions - he will be.
Keep talking to him and pay no mind to what anyone else thinks.
You are a good person and that's all that matters. Period.

Bob

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 08 Feb 2008 11:10:52 EDT

kasparov33 : well its been 6 days now since my son left us. these are strange times. i was watching spongebob squarepants last night. that was one of his favorites and to be honest i liked it too. kinda strange for a 37 year old but its so darn funny. my wife and daughter were gone at the time. when i started to cry all i could think about was my son saying dad please stop im trying to watch tv and you shouldnt be doing that anyway. i even found myself talking to my son in the car the other day and told my wife i would find it weird to do that but believe it or not i felt better. hope nobody in the other lane saw me or they would think i need some kind of help for sure. thanks again to all of you for your posts. your kind words have shown that there still are a lot of people who care left in this rotten world. later all

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Thu, 07 Feb 2008 10:41:40 EDT

muzscman : I am so sorry for you're loss. You and your family have been in my prayers and you will continue to be in my prayers.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Wed, 06 Feb 2008 14:20:35 EDT

SuperNet33 : I am very sorry for your loss, if you ever need ANYTHING please let me know..

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Wed, 06 Feb 2008 09:38:57 EDT

Edge1 :

said by kasparov33 :

just wanted to let all of you wonderful people know that my son passed away saturday night at 9:03. there wasnt any pain or suffering at the time. we were all there with him. thank each and every one of you who helped me through this. your replies meant more than you will ever know. if i can help anyone of you with anything feel free to let me know. god bless you all and i love each and every one of you.

I am sincerely sorry for your loss and have been thinking about your family. God please grant you all some level of peace in this, the hardest of times. I am glad you were able to love him so openly and caringly in his final hours of time on this earth.

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Wed, 06 Feb 2008 04:25:15 EDT

anon : Mike is all too correct.

I too lost my only son just over 2 years ago.
His story was a long one filled with incredible battles of survival and nearly continual tests of our faith. Yet, we are so much the richer for having had Ryan in our loves for those short almost 4.5 years.
Ryan had a unique partial-trisomy 5 genetic disorder which caused him to have heart issues (among several others). He had his first open-heart surgery when he was just 5 lbs and 11 days old. It went badly, and we should have lost him that day (or shortly thereafter). Yet, he survived and he was allowed to stay with us for more than four more years.
We had another round of heart surgery and multiple close brushes with death throughout his short life.
In the end, Ryan left us suddenly and unexpectedly, and we went through everything Mike described - and then some, as you no doubt will too. I think any father/parent/family who loves their children will experience much the same things. (It still hurts to remember all this today - as it will for you too, I'm sure).
Yet, life, painful as it will seem for a while, must go on.
We only are allowed a brief time to be paralysed in our grief and loss. Then, we must pick up, and live on - for them, as much as for ourselves and our remaining (and future?) family.
We too wondered the all-too-familiar "why us?"/"why our son?" questions for a while. At the memorial service for Ryan, we received a partial answer. In his all-too-short life, Ryan touched the lives of hundreds of people...
and they all came to the memorial service say goodbye. If we weren't so stunned by just dealing with our own loss at the time, we'd have been amazed by how many lives our little boy had touched.
I have no doubt your son was just as special to you as ours was to us, and that the raw, gaping, agonizing wound you all now feel at his passing seems unbearable and the pain unending. In some ways it will always be so, but in other ways it remains true that time heals all wounds, if we but allow it. True love works strangely like that.

From our family to yours, we extend our deepest sympathies for your loss.

- Mark B - Ryan (and his 2 older sisters)'s dad.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Wed, 06 Feb 2008 02:53:24 EDT

rawwhide :

said by kasparov33 :

a question for someone. i have uploaded a pic of my son when i edited the post but how do i post the pic or what do i need to d? thanks

»/dev/null forum FAQ »How do I post attachments & screen shots?
The link above may provide some helpful information. Also make sure the image is not .bmp it should be .jpg.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Wed, 06 Feb 2008 02:28:59 EDT

kasparov33 : a question for someone. i have uploaded a pic of my son when i edited the post but how do i post the pic or what do i need to d? thanks

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Wed, 06 Feb 2008 02:18:16 EDT

kasparov33 : was cleaning a bit tonight in the computer room and decided to check dslreports. to whomever surprised this old dude when i read the system message my deepest thanks. thinking a lot about my son and what the heck that slick little devil is up to. a lot of mischief im sure but thats ok from time to time.
later all.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Wed, 06 Feb 2008 02:00:50 EDT

Arelay :

said by Real Live Preacher :

The only comfort comes in thinking about how nice it was to know them, and how nice it was to brush against goodness for a season.

--
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Tue, 05 Feb 2008 23:30:56 EDT

jwersan :

said by kasparov33 :

just wanted to let all of you wonderful people know that my son passed away Saturday night at 9:03.

I am SO sorry... :(
I was reading this and HOPING that he would pull through.
When I read this it hit me like a BULLET in the heart. :o

I don't know if will mean much but reading of your son's passing caused me to shed a tear..

I wish there was something more I could say or do for you...

I am so sorry for your loss. :( :( :( :(
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Tue, 05 Feb 2008 21:52:33 EDT

Skit112 : I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family have my deepest condolences.

Peace be with you.

Skit

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Tue, 05 Feb 2008 20:19:05 EDT

dragonMAGE : I am very sorry to hear of your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family, I am sure you were the best parents your son could hope for

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Tue, 05 Feb 2008 16:54:08 EDT

kasparov33 : the last few days have been very hard and very different. but the people that have called or came by and you guys here at dslreports have made so much of a difference. and knowing that my wife and i did our best as parents and our son was a wonderful person and son has helped us also. knowing he would be there with us and tell us to cry for a bit but not to long and then we need to live as a family again. my son taught me more than i could ever imagine. and he has helped me to be a bigger man about a lot of things. have a great day all.

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Tue, 05 Feb 2008 13:00:23 EDT

KingWaffle : R.I.P. Michael Patrick Ybanez

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Tue, 05 Feb 2008 08:59:13 EDT

Just Rachel : My prayers are with you and your family. May God comfort you.

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Tue, 05 Feb 2008 01:08:26 EDT

erg : Im very saddened to hear the news. Never did i think an online thing like this can be personal.

May his life be an inspiration for you to move on.

My deepest sympathy. Be safe now.

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Mon, 04 Feb 2008 21:20:11 EDT

StreetSpirit : As a father of two kids, this is a hard thread to read... I don't know what to say, other than I can only imagine what you folks must be feeling...

I'm so sorry for your loss...

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Mon, 04 Feb 2008 21:06:55 EDT

kasparov33 : thank you mike. we have so many good memories and the fact that our son left us knowing we did a lot of wonderful things together and that we loved him with everything we had helps us more than i could say. when we cry we will look at each other and say we would be told to stop and live for each other. i know deep down that my son will always be with me, but for awhile the pain is so heavy that we have to hold on to one another as a family and we will make it through. i read all your posts and get something from all of them. thank you.

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Mon, 04 Feb 2008 18:41:04 EDT

anon : I have followed this board for a long time, never posted before.

Like everyone on the board, you and your family have our deepest sympathy. I hope you come back to visit the board to read everyone's words of comfort. I know it will be hard to read them.

This Thursday will be five years since we lost our only son. I could say a lot of things about the emotions you will be going through but that makes it no less painful. I could say that you and your family will make it through this week, then next week and the week after that. But that does not make it any easier.

You and your family will draw strength from each other and memories will become more precious. There is so much more I could say. Again, my deepest sympathy and wish you strength to get through this terrible time.

Mike
"Tim's Dad"

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Mon, 04 Feb 2008 18:18:21 EDT

NY Tel :

said by Old_Grouch :

said by DirtyDeeds :

some of us would like to know when the arrangements are made.

DirtyDeeds and anyone else with a similar question:

I spoke with the funeral home (Drum Funeral Home in Conover N.C.). In their area the mention in UglyDork 's link that all services would be private means that the services will be a private matter within the family and there is not a provision to send cards, flowers or anything else for the general public.

I think that means we need to give them all some room to breathe. I feel that all of us who participated in this forum and sent well wishes have been appreciated but I think respecting the family's privacy (by virtue of the All services will be private notice) in the Obituary.

When the OP is ready, I am sure he will realize what a much larger extended family he now has and that we share in his sadness and should rejoice in all of the good times they had with their son for those precious 12 years together.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 04 Feb 2008 17:07:32 EDT

Old_Grouch :

said by DirtyDeeds :

some of us would like to know when the arrangements are made.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 04 Feb 2008 13:21:39 EDT

DirtyDeeds : I send my Deepest Condolences also.I think from the size of this thread,some of us would like to know when the arrangements are made.You And Michael have touched a lot of people here.Your family is in all of our prayers during this tough time.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 04 Feb 2008 13:17:15 EDT

UglyDork : I was still hoping I wouldn't find this...

»www.legacy.com/Charlotte/DeathNo···02604458

:(

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 04 Feb 2008 11:41:47 EDT

murph1852 : I send you my condolences. You have touched many people here. I am sure I speak for everyone that if there is anything that we can do please let us know.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 04 Feb 2008 11:00:35 EDT

RedRoller : I am so saddened to hear this news. I too was hoping I would log in today and hear of him making a recovery. I have an 11-year-old daughter. I cant imagine what you are going through. Please know that we will continue to pray with you and for you and your family. Thank you for sharing your heart with us and letting us share your pain. You are a model father, one I honor and respect. God bless you and your family.
Redroller

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 04 Feb 2008 10:38:13 EDT

skyfreedomdo : My condolences to you, may he live forever in your hearts and memories.
--
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Whatever the angle; We've got you covered.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 04 Feb 2008 07:49:50 EDT

scoot2300 : Awful news. Hopefully you will get through this terrible time with strength and family. I know that your loss will make me take pause and know what is truly important. A very smart and spiritual man once said when asked about death...

"Energy never ceases to exist, it can only change form"

Albert Einstein

Take care.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 04 Feb 2008 07:39:08 EDT

Masque : I'm am very saddened to hear this. My prayers remain with you and your family.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 04 Feb 2008 06:42:06 EDT

rawwhide : Sorry for your loss. God Bless you and your family.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 04 Feb 2008 05:59:21 EDT

kcazzie :
::::: PEACE :::::

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 04 Feb 2008 02:30:51 EDT

hellrazzer23 : I, too, send my deepest condolences and I am very sorry for your loss. Rest assure, your son is in a better place now, and I'm sure he is proud to have such a great father and family.

I greatly admire the father you are, and hope that I can be a man like you in the future. You are placed in a tough situation but continue to handle it with grace, respect, love, compassion, and courage. Once again, God bless your son, yourself, and your family.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 04 Feb 2008 01:06:37 EDT

youngerberry : I am very sorry for your loss and am sending many more prayers to you and your family.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Mon, 04 Feb 2008 00:33:54 EDT

jig : i carry your heart with me (i carry it in my heart)
i am never without it
(anywhere i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing, my darling)

i fear
no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet) i want
no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart (i carry it in my heart)

- ee cummings wrote it, Michael Hedges put it to song:

»www.youtube.com/watch?v=-PqSZzmUMHM

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Mon, 04 Feb 2008 00:00:25 EDT

santy : I'm sorry for your loss. Prayers going to you and your family for the strength to get thru your time of grief. Words fail me at the moment.
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Sun, 03 Feb 2008 23:20:32 EDT

Dr Demento : I don't know what else to say except that I feel sorry for your loss. However, it is great to see that this forums within a website even as vast as this one are not only filled with cynicism and crass humor, with people posting words more meaningful than mine.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 22:21:25 EDT

frankenfeet : I was dreading catching up on this thread because of this. I was hoping for a full recovery. I'm truly sorry for your loss. I wish a few words could comfort you, but I know it won't. I'm truly, sorry. God bless.
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Sun, 03 Feb 2008 20:19:57 EDT

HFB1217 : My deepest sympathy and hope for you and your loved ones.
The battle is over but not lost your loving Son has be granted relief from his pain and He has passed onto bigger Hands that have the same love and caring as yourself.

He will remain forever young and in your hearts and soul forever. At times life can be hard and unfair and we have come to terms with that and by doing so regardless of the hurt it makes us stronger and love deeper.

I wish to you and your family warmth, love and fond memories.
God bless you and them may He give you strength and comfort.

Hank
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Sun, 03 Feb 2008 19:57:44 EDT

UglyDork : I'm so sorry, I've been thinking about your son all weekend and this is the first chance I've had to get online. I'm sorry and shocked.

God Bless you and your family.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 18:54:06 EDT

SueN :
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Words fail me.....
--
One Life Is All We Get !!!

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 16:07:16 EDT

kramcool : Like so many others i have waited for some good news,my heart truly breaks for you and your family!!!!!It has taken me some time even to write this because of the tears.I know you have a wife to get though this with,God forbid if it was my son(all we have is each other)i know i could not go on.But like the others here have said he is not suffering now and is in a better place.I am sure that when he left this earth the Blessed Virgin Mary was there to put her arms around him as she did her own son.I am not sure who said this and i hope i get it right......

"A wife who loses a husband is called a widow. A husband who loses a wife is called a widower. A child who loses his parents is called an orphan. But...there is no word for a parent who loses a child, that's how awful the loss is."

God bless your family,stay strong,stay together and never forget some day we will all get the chance to see Micheal again!!

P.S Please don't forget to post some pictures of him and the family!
And i too will light a candle for him!
--
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 15:24:44 EDT

Warzau : I'm so sorry I kept on checking your replies for some hope of him getting better. Take comfort that you had him for 12 beautiful years.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 14:08:07 EDT

natedj : I pray the God will comfort you and your family and rest assured that you'll see him again ... our life here on earth is just a precursor and a preparation in character building for the life to come. I'm truly sorry for your lost but for as long as man has been living, man has been dying and it's something that we can never get used to or comfortable with. My condolences to everyone that loved Michael and that Michael loved.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 13:53:14 EDT

richdelb : Our deepest condolences on your loss. I am so sorry to hear this news. My God welcome your son's spirit home and may he rest in everlasting peace. My God also bless you, your wife and the rest of your family and may he bring comfort to your hearts and ease your sorrow.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 13:52:10 EDT

Keith : Rest In Peace Michael

Miss me but let me go

When I come to the end of the road
And the sun has set for me,
I want no rites in a gloom-filled room.
Why cry for a soul set free?

Miss me awhile, but not too long,
And not with your head bowed low.
Remember the love that we once shared.

Miss me, but let me go.
This is a journey that we all must take,
And each must go alone.
It's all part of the Master's Plan.
It's a step on the road to home.

MISS ME, BUT LET ME GO
When you are lonely and sick of heart,
Go to the friends we know,
And bury your sorrows in doing good deeds.

Miss me but let me go....

kasparov33, I have been following this thread since it's start, your words and how you have stood strong have helped me with the recent loss of my Mother and the following week My Brother,

May your god hold Michael with all the love you have
Keith
--
When a man talks dirty to a woman, it's sexual harassment. When a woman talks dirty to a man, it's $3.95 a minute

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 13:47:28 EDT

THUD300 : He is free, his suffering has ended. My condolences to you.
--
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 13:26:04 EDT

Jolie : My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family, I am so sorry for your loss.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 13:18:01 EDT

Kardinal : May light perpetual shine upon your son, and peace and grace be with you and your family through this difficult time of loss.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 13:12:54 EDT

ThirdShifter : My he rest in peace and god bless you. Judging by your continuous update, you had shown to your family that you will stick up for all of them to the end. Courageous and i applaud you for that.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 12:56:21 EDT

vapochilled :

said by Vtblues :

I'm so sorry for your loss.
The prayers aren't stopping though, they're for you and your family now.
Your son accomplished something amazing while here, there were over two thousand people here who looked at this thread, and just imagine how many of these prayed.
And how many of those people told their families, friends and churches of your son.
Your son brought untold thousands together and closer to God through prayer.
And you kasparov33, by being brave enough to bare your heart here and share what most may have wanted to keep a very private event have demonstrated a love for your son that I believe many fathers can and will learn from. You have shown humbly what a father's love is.

I could not say it better, no parent should go through that which you have endured with dignity and love.
So very sorry for your loss.

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Sun, 03 Feb 2008 12:33:52 EDT

Vtblues : I'm so sorry for your loss.
The prayers aren't stopping though, they're for you and your family now.
Your son accomplished something amazing while here, there were over two thousand people here who looked at this thread, and just imagine how many of these prayed.
And how many of those people told their families, friends and churches of your son.
Your son brought untold thousands together and closer to God through prayer.
And you kasparov33, by being brave enough to bare your heart here and share what most may have wanted to keep a very private event have demonstrated a love for your son that I believe many fathers can and will learn from. You have shown humbly what a father's love is.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 12:27:42 EDT

Jtmo : So sorry for your loss, and what you have gone through as a family.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 12:27:05 EDT

tommy13v : I'm sorry for you loss. May you have peace during this difficult time.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 12:25:32 EDT

delenn13 : I am so sorry for your loss. May God be with you and your family in your hour of sorrow.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 12:22:19 EDT

RX8 : So sorry to hear the loss. :(

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 11:38:04 EDT

fourboxers : I'm so sorry for your loss.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 11:33:38 EDT

PhoenixDown : I wish there was more that we could do... I'm so sorry for your loss.

Its not easy when the road of life takes us away from those we love but the important thing to remember is that you and your wife filled your sons every moment with love and joy.

If I can be of any help, just let me know.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 11:26:53 EDT

anarmsxprt : So sorry to hear that news Kasp........damn.

If there is anything we can do please let us know....

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 11:11:04 EDT

Wayne GphFX : Most of prayed for a miracle he is in better hands now. My condolences.....
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 11:02:10 EDT

cabana : Truly sorry to hear your news. Stunned. I had so hoped he would prove the medical team wrong and rally. I am glad you and your family were surrounding him - he will always be a very loved child.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 11:01:33 EDT

SixOfNine : My deepest sympathies are with you and your family.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 10:47:59 EDT

NY Tel : My prayers ans thoughts are with him. I will light a candle to signify his safe passage from this world.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 10:43:12 EDT

tmpchaos : Oh, no. I'm so sorry to hear that.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 10:39:23 EDT

CylonRed :

said by mig :

I am so sorry

You and your family have our deepest condolences.

Take care

Ditto the above... :(

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 10:39:17 EDT

sashwa : So sorry to hear this but at least he is not suffering any longer.

My deepest sympathy for you and your family.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 10:35:43 EDT

mig : I am so sorry

You and your family have our deepest condolences.

Take care

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 10:31:16 EDT

kasparov33 : just wanted to let all of you wonderful people know that my son passed away saturday night at 9:03. there wasnt any pain or suffering at the time. we were all there with him. thank each and every one of you who helped me through this. your replies meant more than you will ever know. if i can help anyone of you with anything feel free to let me know. god bless you all and i love each and every one of you.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 14:26:53 EDT

Old_Grouch :

said by kasparov33 :

its a shame we couldnt all get together

I continue to marvel at your strength and attitude.

Your mind is a bit occupied but I suspect that at some point you will realize that we are already all together.

We continue to pull for you and your family.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 14:17:28 EDT

Vtblues : kasparov33, how about I buy you a cup of coffee as MSVtblues and I don't drink either

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 13:38:01 EDT

tommy13v : I have been praying for your son for days and I will bring him up in prayer this evening at our home church meeting.

God Bless

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 13:24:08 EDT

richdelb : We are all still here and praying for your son and your family. Hang in there sir. Your love and dedication to your son sets an example for us all. God bless.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 12:03:14 EDT

kasparov33 : thanks again. came home today to wash some clothes and get a quick shower. not having clean clothes and not taking a shower for 2 days makes me feel quite skanky. the doctors came in this morning and gave us the same old story but ive come to take it with a grain of salt and let my son decide what he and the good lord want to do. i will be back at the hospital with my wife as soon as i finish with the clothes here at home. reading your replies and writing back has been more helpful and therapeutic than i had ever thought. its a shame we couldnt all get together even though i dont drink i would buy us all a cold brew anyway. hope you all have a great day and a better one tomorrow.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 11:14:54 EDT

cabana : Gentle Reminder -- This thread is NOT a debate or discussion thread about belief systems.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 08:07:41 EDT

erg : I've been following this thread for some time now anonymously. I must say that you, sir, is an oustanding father. I dunno what youre going through right now. Even if I dont pray nor do I think God will hear me, your family and Michael are always in my thoughts, halfway around the world. I wish you strength through this harrowing experience.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 03:36:45 EDT

kingpin317 : Hi kasparov33 --

God bless you and your family. Ask, believe and receive. Hold firm in your faith. In this moment, that all you can do. Michael is counting on you to be stronger and braver than you have ever been.

We will be praying, too, and light a candle for Michael at Mass this Sunday.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 00:14:53 EDT

jimmay76 : kasparov33,

We are all pulling for bro, be there for him but makes sure you eat a least a little and drink plenty of water

I wish the strenght of everybody here to you and your boy

Jim

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 23:48:32 EDT

Vtblues :

said by kasparov33 :

thats fine but what you seem to miss is the fact that you can pray for more than one person and i really dont see how much worse you can get than facing death. but im not going to worry about your post and focus on the posts of the other intelligent people that replied and said they would keep my son in their prayers. he is still holding strong and we talk to him all the time. thanks for all the replies folks and many prayers to your families also. i will post later when i get the chance. thank you all.

kasparov33, you sir are a man of true class
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 20:30:49 EDT

tmpchaos : I'm sorry you had to see that nasty bit of work.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 20:29:45 EDT

kasparov33 : thats fine but what you seem to miss is the fact that you can pray for more than one person and i really dont see how much worse you can get than facing death. but im not going to worry about your post and focus on the posts of the other intelligent people that replied and said they would keep my son in their prayers. he is still holding strong and we talk to him all the time. thanks for all the replies folks and many prayers to your families also. i will post later when i get the chance. thank you all.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 19:42:33 EDT

redhat1968 : My family has your family in our prayers.....

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 17:35:49 EDT

nissan552 : Never give up hope everything will turn out alright.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 16:17:42 EDT

SuperNet33 : I hope everything goes well, keep your head up and hope for the best!

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 14:15:40 EDT

sunny8294 : My prayers to the almighty for Michael.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 13:51:35 EDT

owenhome : I know what you are going through. I also know how hard it is to hear that and how you are probably thinking "How could he POSSIBLY?", but if you remember me from before, you'll know. It's not something I really want to get into at the moment as it's really close to that time of year, but I......, well, I know. Let me tell you some things I learned through hindsight.

The one thing you need to remember, probably the most important thing to keep at the very front of your mind, you never know how it will go or what's going to happen during these turbulent times. These really nasty valleys are just part of this terrible, terrible disease and sometimes, sometimes they are just valleys, not the cliffs they feel like.

I know how desperate and helpless you feel right now, and how you try to keep your mind off of it but every second it all comes CRASHING back in like a flood, but the MOST important thing you can do at this moment is to remember that the future's not written yet and there are so many positive ways this can resolve, even if it feels like you are at the bleakest times and things can't possibly get better.

Children are amazing. They can impress and dumbfound the very best doctors. Wait for that, hope for that. Know that you aren't alone, no matter how alone you feel. Know that it can get better, even though it feels like your world is ending. Know that there are others who have gone through this, or are going through it right now. Know that people really do survive this terrible illness, even when it seems so desperate that your world is imploding.

I also know that nothing I say can ever really help, at best I can give you something to think about. So, here you go...

When I went through this, I made a HUGE mistake. Let me explain. You see, for those who loose the battle, it seems that their life becomes about NOTHING but the battle. No matter what happens, do not, absolutely DO NOT loose hope and confuse the time you have with the time you don't have. The biggest mistake I made, I think the biggest mistake I could have POSSIBLY made was spending those days at the lowest I could be instead of cherishing that time, the time she was still with us. Instead of that time being about living and loving, it became about dieing and leaving. Those desperate emotions wrecked, no, DESTROYED those last few days. DO NOT, and I mean this, please, spend some time thinking about this, really, please do, DO NOT, I wish there was some way to convey this that I could impart its true importance, DO NOT ruin the time you do have by weeping over the time you don't have. Please try to remember that. I know how much you tell yourself you need to be strong, for both your child and your family, but don't let that strength become a wall. Right now, as bleak as it may seem, you are all still living and loving. Use that time, cherish it. Don't loose it or squander it with worry and strife. Don't listen to everyone who tells you to be strong, strong is not what you need. Be LOVE.

We will be praying for you.
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Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 13:46:05 EDT

Ripmaster : I hope your son recovers soon.

Whether you call it "praying" or "positive thoughts", there are many people here thinking of your son and your family and hoping for a positive outcome.

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 13:45:13 EDT

kcazzie : Our prayers go out to your son and the whole family...

G-d Bless ...

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 12:17:28 EDT

Aframe : My prayers go out for your son and family. May God bless all of you

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 11:44:32 EDT

pilotsr : My thoughts and prayers go out to your son Michael. May God bless and shine down on you and your family. My condolences to you and your family in this tough time.

God Bless

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 10:58:34 EDT

Vtblues : I'm still praying for your son and have done what I can to get as many praying as I can.
Sir, you have moved me

Re: Update on my son who has cancer

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 10:51:26 EDT

Hasher : My thoughts and prayers go out to you .. I have had 3 friends die of cancer and have been there through it all I pray for your son and know that God has heard those prayers and his will be done.